Saturday, November 13, 2004

guilty pleasure

I did something wrong today. I felt guilty, but I also felt so good. :)

I accidentally found my sister’s diary.

I read it. Eeeek.

Yeah it’s wrong, but I was just curious on what my sister wrote on it. Crushes maybe? Or if she secretly has a boyfriend. Haha. Well because I was about her age when Bryan became my boyfriend. Okay, I was younger. I was 6 months away from my 18th birthday.

I found nothing written on it about any guy (to my disappointment hehe), and it turned out my sister wrote on it just right after her debut celebration. I didn’t read her whole entry completely, but as I was scanning it, I saw my name. What’s written:

"Yung ate ko, mahal na mahal ko yun sobra! Di nga lang siguro gaano naipapakita pero mahal ko yun."

Awww.

My sister knows the worst side of me. How really mataray, suplada, masungit, mapang-asar I am. We fight a lot, but we know we have a special bond between us like no other.

I love her to bits.

.....I am a toughie, but a softie inside.

Yeah I guess if you have really painstakingly read all my looooong entries, you probably have figured what a schmaltzy sucker I am. :)
Oh yeah, I'm not gonna do that again. It's my first time doing that.

Tuesday, November 09, 2004

Christmas, The Stepford Wives, Med Books and Rainbows

I am becoming a negligent blogger. I know, I know. I’m not even busy. But that’s about to change. I’ll be back to my old blogging ways I promise.

Christmas na, Christmas na,
Ang saya-saya

Weeee!!! My favorite month of the year! Aside from the fact that it’s Christmas, it’s my birthday too! Hehe. Pathetic plugging.

Don’t you guys just love Christmas? Try going to the mall. Even if you don’t have money to buy something, you feel happy just being there checking Christmas decors and Christmas cards, hearing Christmas songs everywhere, and watching people busily buying Christmas gifts?

Aminin, kahit wala ka pera, masaya db? But of course, mas masaya kung may pera. Hehe

Really, sana araw-araw Pasko. Not just because of the gifts (although they’re a plus), but because of the feeling of happiness in the air when it’s Christmas season.

The Stepford Wives - Ahaha. Not your typical Nicole Kidman movie. You’d be surprised what this movie’s all about.

I am planning to sell in Recto 5 of my medical books I used last year. I hate to do it, but well I’m not using them anymore and I have to raise some money for the books I need to buy this semester.

Baby Adams = P612
Pocket Pedia = 350

Mura db? Baby lang para mura.

Harrison’s Internal Medicine = P4,895. Argh. Why do med books have to be soooo expensive? Nicky says this is an important book because it’s the bible of Medicine.

Mag-garage sale kaya ako? Shucks… ano naman kaya ibebenta ko?

Took this picture last Friday when I was in Bulacan.




Yep, two rainbows. Amazing huh?

On L*ve, S*x and M*rriage

So I was about to post a new entry last Saturday about what I’ve seen from the show Y Speak. My, my. Before, the usual topics concerning sex were either of two things: 1) whether pre-marital sex is acceptable or not, or 2) whether virginity matters or not anymore.

But the issue last Saturday was…. which should come first, love or sex. Yes,
sex ba muna bago love, or love muna bago sex.

Shocked? Me too. What’s more shocking was that there were actually guests there and members of the audience who were brave enough to have their faces seen on national television, who actually believed that sex should come first before love. I mean, they believed in it so much that they went there to insist that they’re correct.

The guests who were pro-sex-before-love:

1. Justin Cuyugan – I think he believed more on the other argument. He didn’t speak much, and well, he’s a guy. His explanation for believing that sex should come first before love boils down to the fact that it’s a bonus for a guy to have sex with someone, no strings attached. They love sex, don’t they?

2. Jam – I forgot her last name, but she’s a courtside newscaster during basketball games on Studio 23. This girl was different. She even won the “Babaeng Palaban” award because of the way she actually defended her belief. I think she got really pikon with Christian Vasquez. She believes that sex should come first before love, but there is a transition as she calls it. Uh, does that mean you have sex with a guy without a commitment whatsoever, and you have sex with him and hope that develops into love? Well what if it doesn’t? She also upholds that a woman should first live-in with her partner before they get married.

3. Some member of “The Bodies” – uh, don’t have much to say about her opinion. Just think of how a nymphomaniac would reply when asked about this issue. Hehe. It was apparent that it’s okay to have sex with someone she doesn’t love because, sex is sex, and she enjoys it. Oh, one thing she said that cracked me up: “Mauna na muna ang sex bago love para pag di kayo nagkatuluyan, mas hindi masakit db?” Ehhh?

4. Criselda Volks – Hahaha. Read: “You can never get to know someone unless you actually have sex with him.” Wtf? What was she thinking?
Bahala na kayo…

Another thing, one of their utmost points was that couples should be sexually compatible in order for the relationship to last. That there are couples who are very much in love, only to find out when they sleep together that they are not sexually compatible, then comes the reason for separation.

On the other hand, the guests who believed that love should come first before sex were Dimples Romana, Mel Soriano, some UP student, and Christian Vasquez. I was pretty surprised that Christian Vasquez belonged to this group, I mean, with his reputation and all in showbiz, being sexy and all that.

Okay, here’s my opinion on this topic, added with the opinions of the pro-love-before-sex guests.

1. If sex comes first before love, what makes us any different from animals?

2. Trial-and-error should not be applied with sex. Love is very hard to find. What if you were destined to meet your soulmate 10 years from now, and he’s from another country? Ahehe. You think of the scenario nalang.

3. Love should come first before sex, thus the term “making love”.

4. Sex is not a tool for finding love. It is a sacred act for procreation.

5. Sexual compatibility is not a guarantee that a relationship will last forever. Relationships are based on love, trust, understanding etc. etc., and not sex. When you get old and you can’t have sex anymore with your partner, love is the thing that will keep you together.

6. If you have sex with someone you don’t love, and you get pregnant, you only have two choices: 1) get married though you don’t love the guy, 2) raise the child on your own if marriage is not possible. Either way,
kawawa yung bata.
7. If you’re a girl, I think you know that you’re lugi when sex comes first before love. And there’s always the risk of getting pregnant.

8. The pro-sex-before-love says these are the ideal ways of viewing love and sex. But in reality, the opposite happens: sex comes before love. Well it’s your choice whether to follow what most people are doing or not, right?

For me, marriage muna.

Call me santa santita or what, but that’s what I believe in. I have nothing against those other people having pre-marital sex, it’s their way of expressing their love. (But total ngek-ngek for those people having sex without love). It’s the best gift I can give to my future husband, because I saved myself for him, and it’s his best gift for me, because he waited and respected my decision.

Oh yeah, Criselda Volks quoted “It’s just a piece of paper” (marriage).

I am not yet married, and I am years away from being married. But I do want to get married someday.

I believe that when you get married to someone, it signifies how much you love that person that you are ready to give yourself to him and only him, that you are ready to face the challenges of married life, that you are willing to take the risk because there’s no guarantee that your marriage will be successful. It means that you are ready to have a family of your own, that you don’t think of yourself only anymore. I believe that marriage is the greatest way of professing your love to your partner because you choose to spend the rest of your life with him. And it’s great knowing that your partner also marries you for the exact same reasons you have. That he’s also just as willing to take the risk of getting married though there’s no guarantee that the relationship will last forever.

Oh, to make that even clearer, I am posting some words I got from Mon's blog, which were said by the husband of his friend’s sister’s.

when i proposed to mai, i was frequently asked these three questions: are you sure?, how do you know? and are you nervous?. i answer the first two questions with this. you can never be too sure or too certain about marrying someone. but you can always have faith, and i think some things are best left to faith. faith in that you made the right choice. faith in that things will last forever. and maybe even longer. but most of all, there should be faith in the person you married. she is there, just as unsure as you, but just as faithful. have faith in love uniting two souls.for the third question, my answer is no, i haven't been nervous for the past six months (of the engagement). while it is true that this is the hardest and scariest decision a guy can make, it should very well be the easiest also. knowing that i love her is reason enough to commit my life to her.

Sweet, huh?

Now, is it just a piece of paper?

Thursday, November 04, 2004

I am the cleaning guru


Yes, I am the cleaning guru. Haha.

I finally mustered enough industry yesterday to clean up my room. After a month of living like the word order didn’t exist, my room is now squeaky-clean. Harhar.. Yep, I meticulously sweeped the floor, arranged the clothes in my cabinet, as well as all my books and hand-outs (hardest task, I tell you), wiped the windows, mirror, cabinets, chairs, table, doors and walls with a wet washcloth followed by a dry cloth, and repositioned the bed. I also planned on waxing the floor, but finding myself still waist-deep in old transcriptions, I changed my mind. The floor is still too shiny for waxing anyway. That’s rationalization for you! Hehe

My room has now much more space, which is good because I have now a space where I can just vegge-out (not sure about the spelling though). Vegge-out = be still like a vegetable, lay like broccoli. Word courtesy of Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. :)

I need a few more decorating bits and pieces to complete the look I want, and a carpet tops the list. No, not a carpet carpet. A Winnie the Pooh carpet. It’s much cheaper, and.. what else? I love Pooh. :) I originally wanted to have a corner with an Oriental look, but I decided to do away with it because I couldn’t find a store that sells my much-wanted triangle pillow thai cushion. Any of you know where I can get one? I’d still buy one if it’s sold here in the Philippines..

To make my cleaning skills seem more dramatic, I’ve decided to post pictures of my room before and after I cleaned it, ala reality show. Think “How clean is your house?”
Before

After

Before

After

My bed's new position: by the window. Thanks for the kind words kanina Gingi... Manakot ba??! hehe :P

My vegge-out stuff! My big, black bean bag, and yes, that's a beach chair. Masarap upuan eh. Right, Mitzi? :) I still have to arrange this though. This is my future vegge-out spot. :)


O db, O.A.? Hehe. Okay my room is nothing worth of your “Ooohs” and “Aaahs”. But I’m just excited about it because like I said, it’s my first time to have a room of my own. And I am proud of myself because I was able to clean it! Weeee!!! I mean, how many of you look forward to cleaning up a messy room?

Next stop, my laptop. I believe this is harder to clean than my room..

Sorry seems to be the hardest word


True.

My friend told me that you-know-who said that the anger she feels towards us exists no more. I couldn’t believe what she said, so I asked her to confirm it. And my friend sent me a text message last night saying that yes, I am no exception. Wala na rin syang galit sakin.

I couldn’t believe it. After the kind of fury that she showed me, I couldn’t believe that she would be able to do that. To actually feel no anger towards me anymore.

I didn’t know what to feel. Relief? Perhaps. I don’t know.

Did I deserve it? Maybe. To actually be forgiven for something wrong that I did is great. But to be forgiven for something that I never did, how am I supposed to feel?

Yeah I know I have my own mistakes. To be forgiven for those, that’s really really good. But to be forgiven for the one thing that started all this, which I never did in the first place…

I feel….. ?

Wait, when someone tells you she just woke up and felt no anger towards you anymore, does that mean she’s forgiven you?

No anger = forgiveness?

I don’t think so.. I think I’m wrong.

I haven’t forgiven her. I still feel angry whenever I remember all the things that happened between us. Read: only when I remember all the things that happened between us. Not all the time.

But I also want all of that to end.

When? I just don’t know. I don’t know if I’ll ever be ready.

But I guess I have to be. She’s here now, doing something that I never thought she would do…

She’s showing humility.

We’re set to talk, to straighten things out. But I’m scared. I’m scared that, old feelings will be back again. Malamig na ang sitwasyon, baka uminit ulit. Baka mag-away ulit. That’s what I don’t want to happen.

I’m going to have to face her.

And when I do, I hope I can tell her that five-lettered word…

Think I’m egotistical? You don’t know what I’ve been through. So don’t judge me.

It’s just sad that the best possible result would be to be in speaking terms with her again. What used to be a deep friendship will become a casual relationship now. Things will never be the same.

That’s the worst part of this.

Thursday, October 28, 2004

The Patch Adams Effect

Being a medical student enrolled at St. Luke’s, I always pass by the Medical Center. The first time I went there, I couldn’t help but be awed at how beautiful the Medical Center is- looking more like a hotel than a hospital. Plus, the Operating Room visit made possible by our Surgery Clinics made me even more amazed at how beautiful a hospital St. Luke’s is.

But today, we went to Bulacan Provincial Hospital. I’ve always heard horrible stories about this hospital, how my relatives always try to avoid going there as much as they can whenever they need to be hospitalized. My Tita Bonita who gave birth there, told me about how pitiful it is to stay there.

When we arrived there, at first it was all okay. I mean, it’s a government hospital, so it’s understandable that it’s no St. Luke’s Medical Center in splendor. The wards were similar with those of the Medical Center’s, with hospital beds side by side in one room. Only, there were no curtains to separate the individual beds to give each patient some privacy, and there were ceiling fans instead of airconditioners. Also, there were no doors separating the wards from the halls of the hospital, but only a wall with a wide opening. So you can imagine how just about anyone can freely enter and exit the wards, and how someone passing by can see all of the patients inside with just one glance.

But when I saw the ICU I was talking about in the entry above, that was when I realized how pitiful government hospitals really are.
Intensive Care Unit. As far as I know, and as far as I’ve seen on TV or in the movies, it’s an area that has the most restrictions. You’re supposed to wear a gown or scrubs, a mask, a cap, booties, etc. Ok, I’m talking about the required attire inside the Operating Room, but that’s how someone is supposed to be in the ICU too right? You have to be sterile. And visitors are not allowed unless it’s absolutely necessary.

But the ICU in the Provincial Hospital was different. Way different. Had it not been for the sign made of cardboard with the letters I C U written on it, I would not have realized the area Tata Itoy’s been staying in, is the ICU. The only difference it had from the wards I described earlier, was that it had a glass door, and an airconditioner. Apart from that, nothing else. There were also no curtains, I didn’t see anyone wearing gowns or scrubs aside from the nurses checking up on the patients. There was a sign on the door that said “Bawal ang dalaw”, but, bawal nga ba? My tatay freely entered the ICU to look at Tata Itoy, and I even told him to not enter because the sign said so. But apparently, di naman bawal. Anyone could freely enter the ICU. Even the ones without business there could enter. I watched in disbelief as people coming from outside the hospital opened the doors of the ICU, and entered without caution. No one was even there to guard the ICU, and make sure that the rules were followed. Not even the nurses at the Nurses’ Station situated beside it cared. And the glass doors of the ICU- the only piece of equipment that served to separate the delicate patients from the rest of the dirty outside world- wouldn’t even close completely. Everytime someone would enter, the doors would be left ajar.

So for that time that we stayed there outside while I listened to Inang Yola and my tatay talking about Tata Itoy’s condition, I made myself useful. I closed the doors completely after someone came in or out of the ICU.

Grabe. While every patient confined at St. Luke’s Medical Center settled for the best medical service, the patients at the Provincial Hospital were content with the acceptable. Though at times, when you look at it more closely, it’s not even acceptable.

I felt guilty right there, knowing how much money I spend on my tuition fee when it can help a lot of people there with their health problems. I remembered Julia Stiles in “The Prince and Me”, where her target work places were countries where medical services were most needed, instead of places where her career as a doctor would flourish.

I wish I could also sincerely think that way.

I’d be a hypocrite if I say I’d like to work there at the Provincial Hospital instead of at St. Luke’s Medical Center. I’d be plastik if I say I’ll settle for the passable standards of the Provincial Hospital instead of the first-rate principles of the Medical Center.

But there is one thing I am sincere about, no pretensions whatsoever: I want to help other people.

Yes, I still think of my own welfare, of what’s also good for me, because if not, there’s no doubt I’d work as a doctor with free services. I’m on my 2nd year as a medical student, and I still have 3 more years before I finally graduate from medschool. I still have 3 more years to finally realize how I could help other people with my chosen profession. I may not be as exceptional as Patch Adams, but I know my desire to help is just as sincere as his.

And it’s more than closing faulty ICU doors.

A Special Request

This morning I got to talk to my Tita Ninia, the wife of my Tito Rey, who I’ve told about in a recent entry- my uncle with liver cancer. I avoided talking to my Tito Rey though he was also there with my Tita, just because I didn’t know what to tell him, what to say to him, how to make him feel better, knowing his present condition. Stupid huh?

So then my Tita Ninia told me that aside from his husband battling cancer, her father is also now in the hospital because he got a stroke about 4 days ago. His condition is so bad now, that she told me her other relatives are “naghihintay nalang” for that time. So I immediately sent my tatay a text message about Tata Itoy’s condition (my Tita Ninia’s father), and suggested that he visit him in the hospital before he comes home.

Oh dear. I can’t imagine what my Tita Ninia now is going through. First, her husband- my Tito Rey. And now, her father. When I lost my mother to cancer, there was no way I could describe how difficult and painful it was for me and for my sister to lose a mother, and for my tatay to lose a wife. But my Tita Ninia, both her husband and her father are dying.

This afternoon we went to the Bulacan Provincial Hospital to visit Tata Itoy.

So when we arrived there, we didn’t know what room he was in. All we knew was that he was in the Provincial Hospital. We only knew his last name, which we asked from the Information area, but we had to look for him by ourselves because there were a lot of patients with the same last name as Tata Itoy’s. We searched for the wards but we were unsuccessful, and as my tatay was inquiring at the Nurses’ Station, I happened to be standing outside the ICU. I took a peek, and saw a man lying in the nearest bed, with a lot of tubes connected to his body- 3 bags of dextrose (I don’t know if they were all dextrose), a naso-gastric tube, and one for his oxygen support. The man’s condition was pitiable, and after a few seconds, I finally realized that the man I was looking at was Tata Itoy himself.

A few minutes later, Inang Yola- Tata Itoy’s wife- arrived. When my tatay asked her what had happened to Tata Itoy, she burst out crying. God, when she started crying, my eyes also welled up with tears. I tried hard to control myself from crying. Yeah, I barely know Tata Itoy, but seeing someone crying because of a loved-one suffering was enough to move me to tears. I know how it feels. I know how difficult it is to see someone you love suffer, and yet you can’t do anything to help him/her.

After a few minutes, Inang Yola calmed down and she was able to tell us more clearly about Tata Itoy’s condition. His CT scan result showed a ruptured artery at the back of his head (don’t know my Neuroanatomy anymore). Also, he has GI bleeding, and other complications. While my Tatay and Inang Yola were talking, I watched Tata Itoy through the glass door of the ICU. There was one moment when he was coughing, and I could see that it hurts him when he coughs. His right hand reached up for his nasogastric tube, as if he wanted it removed, only his daughter who was beside him stopped him from doing so. I don’t know, but when I saw that action, I thought maybe he wants his suffering to end.

The doctors told Inang Yola that Tata Itoy’s prognosis is bad. Inang Yola said that she has readied herself for the worst that may happen. Although the doctors have given up on her husband, they still decided for him to stay at the hospital. They want his suffering to end too, but they can’t take him home and also give up on him because it would be like they let him die. They’re still hoping.

Because when a loved-one is fighting for his life, you join him and fight for him too until the end, right?

Everyone who gets to finish reading this entry, please help me pray for all my ill relatives, as well as for my Tita Ninia. She is trying to be strong, because that’s the best thing that she can do right now, but I know this is very difficult for her to go through. Her family is planning to come home to the Philippines this November, but they’re still working on it. You know how it is in the United States- lots of things to settle before you can leave. Plus, tickets aren’t cheap, so there’s also the problem of money. But she told me lots of their friends there are helping out, and I really wish they could come home soon, as her mother also wishes, so she and her father can see each other before it’s too late.

Please, help us pray for them. Thank you.

Wednesday, October 27, 2004

Happy


Happy sha la la
it's so nice to be happy

Know that song, right?

Well I'm happy. :)

Finally.

I've been low-spirited the past couple of days, and it's time for me to finally lighten up a bit. Yeah well there's still the problem of sick relatives... but, I asked
Mr. Jim Paredes and his blog readers for prayers and it feels great to know other people are praying for a miracle for your relative too. He's a great man, and his being great is way beyond his being an APO. Read his blog and you'll know what I'm talking about. :)

Okay, moving on...

So I'm happy. Yep. Been spending two whole days with Bryan, and I'm gonna seem him again later. :) Oh, I also finally bought the bean bag I've been lusting on since the start of the recently-ended semester. The owner of the condominium I used to live in has this huge bean bag, and I've been wanting to have the same thing. So last Monday, Bryan and I went to Dimensione and finally bought the bean bag. It's larger than the one I wanted originally I think, and it's black-my fave color! Weeee!!!

What else? Hmm.. We were supposed to go to Clark today, to submit something so we can get out passports, but it's Angie's enrollment so Tatay had to postpone it. Why passports? Tita Edna and Tito Philip (family friends) have decided to treat a couple of their friends to Hong Kong this Christmas. Yes, Hong Kong, treat. All expenses paid. Unfair! Di kami kasama. Anyways, we're getting a passport just in case some friends decide to back out. Everything has been reserved so if someone backs out, another has to fill in the spot because it's all been paid for. I wish someone backs out. Haha. I'm bad.. I mean, it's Christmas time (yep, their scheduled on December 25-27) and most of them have very young kids. So, you know... di pwedeng iwanan... Haha. Jeez. I sound so desperate... I've never even been on an airplane.. the farthest I've been to so far is Baguio (North) and Lucena (South). Pathetic..

Whaaa. Sabi ko Happy ako eh. Hay.

Okay, here's just the pic of me and my new bean bag. Just imagine how huge that is for you to still see a part of it despite my body. Hehe.





Who doesn't love bean bags?


That's all for now. Adios!

Happy sha la la...